Matters of the Heart

 Beware  "An injured friend is the bitterest of foes.”   Thomas Jefferson~




Keep your head up girl, they'll lie to your face and

talk about you behind your back.

They'll say terrible things about you and think they can

tear your world apart... all because they're jealous.

 Talk low, talk slow and don't say too much.

Feeling Crushed and Used is an awful Feeling

Hello, I hope all is well for anyone that is reading my blog.  I have had a good weekend and an awakening that I know is moving me through my walk with God.  This morning I was having a difficult time with feeling betrayed by someone that I thought was a good friend of mine; however I was stopped in the moment of my complaints.  I was replying to a message in Facebook to a woman I don't know,about my feelings of  unforgiveness, she knows of this particular friend. I realized it wasn't right for me to carry on like a fool to someone I don't know well with my problems, and I instantly was brought to my senses and then tears came to my eyes as I began to humble.  No doubt the work of God. :) 

Jesus was betrayed by a friend, so
He knows what it's like--and yet
He always is ready to forgive.

Since then I have made myself right with God and immediately retracted my senseless venting of someone else's troubles.  God commands us to love even our enemies and to not bear a secret to another, less we be put to shame.  Thank God for His leading all of my life to desire His word, because had I not had the word of God on the tables of my heart, I would probably not be so quick to stop and allow the Lord to work in all of our hearts.  :)

It wasn't an hour after I gave it all to God and decided to allow Him to work out the best for everyone, I received some information that convinced me that He is busy at work to secure His best interests for all of us. Praise God for all of His wondrous works of miracles and His mercy that endures forever!!  Please be in prayer for me that I continue to listen to my heart as it is being softened to God's ways.

Anyhow, I am feeling good knowing that we will see the good things from God as we learn to submit to His ways and His time.  It's time to concentrate on what's best to keeping positive and connecting with our inner girl.  Sometimes as a girl we experience broken days and dirty windows.  Have you ever tried looking out of a dirty window?  It's frustrating because the view is not as clear as it could be.  If we simply try to wipe the window it often becomes   streaked and makes the view worse, if not blurry.  It takes time to clean a window to where it's clear as a picture, and the contents of what we are viewing become as clear as a picture speaking a thousand words.

Here is a great dialogue I discovered from a group of youth authors at Teen Fiction Cafe'

We've all known someone like this - they say they are your friend, but they talk behind your back. They suck up all the attention and energy wherever they go. They are always seeking favors from you (that's what friends are for, right?) but disappear the second you need help. They say things to cut you down (often followed by "just kidding!")Why do we put up with these kinds of friends?

I have learned a lot from the experience

For anyone who has reason to question if their friends are really their friends, here are some good indicators that they aren't -

1. You can't be yourself around them - you feel you have to act, dress, talk, etc. like them to be accepted.

2. They gossip about other people when you're with them. (A sure indicator of what they do behind your back when you're not there.) Worse, you find yourself gossiping more when you're with them, too.

3. They make passive/aggressive comments about your accomplishments, likes, desires so you feel like you have to downplay yourself to be more like them. You notice yourself moving further away from your goals.

4. Your self-esteem is tied to what they think/say about you. You give them power to control your moods.

5. They isolate you. You start to distance yourself from your family and other friends.

 http://teenfictioncafe.blogspot.com/2011/01/when-friends-arent.html

Taking everything one day at a time to give ourselves a chance to examine all the spots on a dirty window to determine whether we need water, ammonia or vinegar to clean it with, will allow us the time to connect with our inner girl and make sure our attitudes are ready for whatever method we need to use to gain a clear perception of any situation or circumstance.  Let the inner girly girl come out and find the innocence it requires to be forgiving and free from feeling manipulated and used; however find the courage to be strong and maintain your self respect, while being classy and fabulous. 

 MY Amazing Friends!

Paul, Me, Elizabeth, and Missi



I believe that my friends are the reason for my integrity.  They keep me honest, trustful, and whole.  I don't think I would have ever learned to be a friend, much less keep all of my friends had they not all been there with me through thick and thin keeping me grounded to a sense of ethical responsibility.  Isn't that what friends are truly for?  I believe so, and when I as a friend see one of my friends going astray I find every way I can to help her or him to see where she or he is straying away from their own integrity.  All of my true friends have done the same for me.  I say thank you to all of my wonderful friends for being apart of my life - I love you all!



Ally, Me and Colleen

 Amazing is found in Strong women with gentle hearts! 

Corrine

Sometimes the most important things that we do are things we cannot measure." ~ Jacqueline Novogratz ~
http://www.amazingwomenrock.com/ted-talks/42-thought-provoking-quotes-from-jacqueline-novogratz-founder-of-acumen-fund.html




Lori




 The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." ~ Audrey Hepburn ~

My oldest friend Kim with her husband Manuel
We have known each other since we were 3 yrs old




The mother of all girly girls Theresa





Malena



                        Those who look for beauty, find it.

   

It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart 





Kelly



Margo with her husband William







Beauty is a fruit which we look at without trying to seize it   ~Simone Weil, Gravity and Grace ~

Laura




My friend Larry dancing at
his wedding with the most
amazing woman I know...
My Sister Karen

Melissa with her husband Daniel

 

  

 



My best friend and
my husband, Eric



 

 

 

How beautiful you are, now that you love me.

  

"For me the only things of interests are those linked to the heart" ~ Audrey Hepburn ~



Jeri Ann



Cathy



 

BEAUTY








Plain women know more about men than beautiful ones do. But beautiful women don't need to know about men. It's the men who have to know about beautiful women. ~Katharine Hepburn




Roger and Karren

Taking joy in living is a woman's best cosmetic.  ~Rosalind Russell


Bill and Kathy





He is richest who is content with the least, for content is the wealth of nature.  ~Socrates ~



Bill



I have so many amazing friends and although they are not all pictured here, this is a group of the most wonderful people in my life that I am proud to call my friends.  Elizabeth has been my longest friend, although most of these people have known me all my life or have been recently in the past 5-10 years added to my life in ways I could never describe.  They are all so very special and I love them all. 

"Every day we slaughter our finest impulses. That is why we get a heartache when we read those lines written by the hand of a master and recognize them as our own, as the tender shoots which we stifled because we lacked the faith to believe in our own   powers, our own criterion of truth and beauty. Every man, when he gets quiet, when he becomes desperately honest with himself, is capable of uttering profound truths. We all derive from the same source. there is no mystery about the origin of things. We are all part of creation, all kings, all poets, all musicians; we have only to open up, only to discover what is already there."



— Henry Miller, Sexus ~

Discussing friends and the topic of feeling betrayed comes with the building of our relationships, but as we look back to the many good times we have had, and the incredible moments of knowing that someone is there for you always in your weakest moments, your strongest feelings, and even in those quiet times when you just needed someone to listen, be near, or show up when nobody else would. :)  Why would anyone ever want to risk losing a friend by lying to gain nothing?  Beats me. 

I am going to set out to get a photo with each of these friends and those that I have no photo of at all within the next year.  This has definitely been a character building week for me.  Wow, talk about a crash course in learning to keep my cool through a tough lesson learned.  I am still having a tough time, but as I seek to trust God with all His wisdom concerning the people I allow to let into my life, I know that He will direct my paths.

Until next time, keep seeking for those character building traits that will keep you improving yourself to becoming a happy girly girl.  Sorry guys, this blog is a girly thing, but you are more than welcome to browse and learn a thing or two about we women who dive into becoming in touch with our inner girl so that we can be all that we can be to maintain being healthy, wealthy and wise. 

Some people dream of having a big swimming pool. With me, it’s closets"



 

Matters of the Heart are often
reflected by our true friends

Hugs, Pamy